Today, a strange concept was introduced to us, daily prompt writers: come up with one question, the answer to which would determine whether or not you could be friends with a person you’ve just met.
This prompt could inspire you to write a post about several different subjects: the issues you care most about, or the traits you appreciate most in your friends. I am a bit confused by the idea though. I think it’s a strange idea that by asking just one question, you could decide whether somebody could be your friend or not. Although I’m a aware of the power of a first impression, I do try not to judge people right away. (Okay, let’s be honest: I have an inclination to judge, but stopped expressing it out loud as not to harm anyone.)
A few weeks ago, a new colleague joined our team. At first I thought she was a bit young, lacking experience, and I wondered if she would fit in with the rest of us. She is a bit different than most of us and she and I don’t share the same beliefs and religious values. It’s only been two weeks, but I do think she’s a great addition to the team. She’s as open minded as any of us, good at her job and taking up the new tasks very quickly. I now realise my first impression was rather unfair. It is important for our team to have different points of view and she definitely has a fresh perspective! I like her for that and think we could be friends as well as colleagues.
Imagine what would have happened if I had asked her some ‘most important question’ about her belief systems, and she had given the wrong answer and we could not be friends for that reason. That would have been a missed opportunity.
I don’t think we should have litmus tests (or questions) for people we’ve just met.